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Deciphering a Child's Learning Style

by  Melanie Skelton

Do you know how your child learns best?  In the discussions I have with other home educators, learning style seems to be one of those things most of them have heard of, but haven’t figured out how to apply.

There are three basic styles of learning; auditory, visual and kinesthetic.  Auditory children learn best
by hearing it and saying it.  Visual children need to see what they are trying to learn.  Kinesthetic children
are those active ones who have to touch it and do it while they learn.  A child may be strong in more than
one of these styles, but understanding how they learn will increase effectiveness and save money you
may have otherwise spent on curriculum that won’t work well for them.  ...read more

How do you decipher a child’s learning style?  It may take time to figure out how your child learns best.

With some children it will be more obvious than with others.  Like the child who never stops singing or talking.  He is obviously very auditory.  Three of my children fit this learning style.  One of them, as a very young child, found comfort in humming himself to sleep.  He didn’t hum a tune, just one note.  Evidently, this was comforting to him, because he never went to sleep without humming.  In the morning, when the humming started again, I knew he was waking up.  This was an early clue to his auditory nature.  He has proven to be very auditory in his constant chatter since that time.  He love books on tape and learns things best when he says it out loud as he learns. 

In my experience, visual learners are harder to identify.  Here are some of the clues.  A child may have a problem tuning in to an instruction that is spoken.  Try having him look at your face when you are asking him to do something.  He may hear what you are saying more easily when he is looking at you.  This response will be a clue that he is a visual learner.  When explaining something, such as a math concept to your child, they may find it easier to learn when you draw it out or demonstrate it with manipulatives they can see.  If this works for them it is another clue that they are more comfortable with this learning style.

Young children tend to be kinesthetic.  They are learning about the world around them and need to touch and do everything.  As they get older, the other learning styles that are part of their nature will become more pronounced.  Some children will continue to have that need to touch and do.  They will be the ones who just can’t sit still.  Moving manipulatives around will be an effective way for them to learn.  Keeping their hands busy while they listen will help them hear what is being taught.  Don’t be afraid to let them stand on their head or do jumping jacks while they recite their multiplication tables.  This will work well for your kinesthetic learner. 

Watching your child learn will provide clues that will help you understand how they learn best. Be patient and pay attention to the clues.  They may be comfortable with one, two or all three of the learning styles.  I have one daughter whose strength is as an auditory learner, but is comfortable in all three learning styles.  My other daughter is a visual learner.  This is really the one learning style she is most comfortable with.  Understanding this has helped her approach her learning in a more effective way.  It took us awhile to decipher this, but this understanding has increased her capability to learn any subject without frustration. 

As you decipher how your children learn, you’ll realize that it isn’t always the same way you learn.  You may have frustrations in trying to figure it out.  But keep paying attention, check the library for books on learning styles and never give up.  The payoff will be friendly to your budget and make a difference in the lives of your children.


Melanie Skelton has educated her six children at home for eight years.  She is the co-founder of Utah Families Teaching at Home and assists in teaching workshops to empower and help home educators.  She is the web designer for the website, found at http: http://www.utahfamilies.net/ and is in the process of co-authoring a book about home education.  This book will help home educators better understand learning styles, personality styles and levels of learning.  It will teach the reader how to apply this information to their home school and plan out a curriculum that will meet the needs of their children.         

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The Top Three Benefits of Learning a Second Language
Early in Life

by Beth Butler

Summary:  The savvy parents and teachers of today realize our economy is requiring a more global approach.  They wish to prepare their children with the tools necessary to travel successfully in a society rich with diversity.  Learn about the many benefits derived from introducing a second language to young children. 

Parents and teachers today are increasingly aware of the need to raise their children to be bilingual.  They have witnessed an ever growing need for acquiring new languages and mastering the awareness of other cultures.  Preparing our young children of today for the world of tomorrow is not only our responsibility but our immediate task at hand.  Experts continually report, the earlier the better when it comes to introducing a second language to children ages birth through ten.  ...read more

Why is this age so ripe for the language learning?  During the first five years of life a young child is less self conscious about any possible mistakes made while practicing a new found language.  In fact, one of the reasons why young children are so successful in picking up the new sounds of a new language is because they are less inhibited when it comes to trying the new language on for size when compared to older children and adults.  One of the greatest things realized here is that native and near native pronunciation is one of the positive side effects enjoyed when children learn a second language this early in life. 

Research pours in demonstrating the many benefits derived from second and third and fourth language learning early in life.  The first of which is directly connected with Ready to Read, Ready to Learn, Born to Read and other education initiatives that promote early reading skills.  Did you realize that children who are being introduced to a second language during the first five years of life will exhibit advanced reading skills when compared to monolingual peers?  Dr. Ellen Bialystok of York University and her team of research experts have conducted many studies on child language acquisition.  Their studies show time and time again that the children who receive instruction in two languages score twice as high on language tests than their monolingual peers. These bilingual children also read sooner according to the published reports. (Dr Ellen Bialystok, 2001) 

As a teacher, it is easy to understand the reasoning as to why this happens.  If a child is learning English in their home, and the parents begin to add Spanish vocabulary words and phrases into the daily routine of that child by placing the new language right alongside the native language, the child then begins to decode the two languages simultaneously.  Experts advise that it is just as easy for a baby, toddler and preschool age child to learn two words for one item as it is to learn only one word.  There is no confusion on the part of the child.  There will be no language delay.  There will simply be the additional vocabulary words added to the list that the child is able to master as he begins to verbalize his understanding of the world around him.  

The use of bilingual DVDs, CDs, and books that introduce the new language in a true bilingual presentation are highly suggested by experts in the fields of linguistics and early childhood development.  Immersion can work, but latest findings suggest that the bilingual method, one where the native language is placed right alongside the new language, provides for higher level of self confidence, better language acquisition and understanding, and increased long term retention.  Many experts advise saving immersion methods for the later elementary school years and into middle and high school when most children have mastered the majority of their native language skills. 

Standardized tests have become a way to measure the success of our children and their level of learning, from elementary school all the way through college.  A 2002 study out of Miami-Dade County public schools reported that children receiving instruction in both Spanish and English scored 23-34 points higher in the verbal and math sections on standardized tests. (Dr.Joanne Urratia, 2002) Being aware of this benefit derived from second language learning should be enough of a motivation for school systems nationwide to begin early language learning at the preschool and elementary school level.  Now, do not chuckle.  I know that with budget cuts and lack of funding for even decent salaries, our children will never see this happen.

 

That is why it is up to us as parents and teachers to use this information about the best way to bring second language learning into the lives of our young children, and make it happen immediately.  Do not worry if you yourself do not speak a second language.  As Drs. Kendall King and Alison Mackey tell us in their book titled The Bilingual Edge (2007), the key is the ability of the parent or teacher to interact with the child using the second language.  They inform us as well that the critical piece does not rest on you having perfect pronunciation and native accent.  Children learn their native language and new language in spite of grammatical errors you might make or imperfect speech that might be directed their way.

 

A bilingual child typically enjoys the titles of great communicator and excellent problem solver.  These coveted titles cover the last of the top three benefits of learning a second language early in life.  It seems quite logical that a young child, who is being introduced to a second language during the years when his brain is experiencing amazing developmental growth, will in turn develop excellent communication skills.  If you heard but forgot or perhaps never heard this statistic at all, it is an important one:  At birth 25% of your brain is developed and by age five 90% of your brain is developed.  Due to the part of the brain being used to acquire these language skills, the bilingual child becomes skillful in problem solving.  I am certain you would agree that these two titles can assist a person on their journey of life.

 

Let us begin the task at hand today.  Allow your child to experience the gift of learning a second language using true bilingual methods and products.  Then enjoy watching your child delight in the many benefits derived from an early introduction to new languages.  Who knows, maybe your child will be reading you your good night story soon.

 


 

Beth Butler is the founder of the BOCA BETH Program. Scoop your child up onto your lap and sample the BOCA BETH bilingual music and movies for free at http://www.bocabeth.com 
Call toll free 1.877.825.2622

 

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Cool Outdoor Family Ideas

by Seth Prezant 

WARNING: The following parent-child ideas are meant to keep cool kids busy for hours exploring, learning and having fun. If you want your children to stay glued to a couch in front of the television, computer or video game eating chips and drinking soda do not read on!

First thing’s first. Every great bug adventurer needs the right tools before exploring the
world (or backyard) for creepy crawlies. Your child needs a safe way to catch and
contain bugs. CoolBugStuff.com has many inexpensive
Bug Catchers and Bug Houses
available, but any old container and a little imagination will do. The important thing
is you and your children have fun together in the great outdoors. Let's get buggy!
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Cool Parent-Child Idea #1: Make your own net. You’ll need an old broom stick, mop handle or a long straight stick for the handle, a wire hanger to hold the net, and an old pillowcase or stocking (no fishnet moms) for the net itself and duct tape to hold it all together. Help children shape the hanger into a circle. Bend the two ends vertically away from the circle at a length approximately 3”. Use the duct tape to secure the straightened ends to the top of the handle. Now take the opening if the stocking or pillowcase and carefully fold it over the rim of the hander and secure with either duct tape or it may even be sewn onto the rim. It may not be pretty but it will work. Besides, you and your child made it together!

Cool Parent-Child Idea #2: Kids love to experiment and kids love sweets. Let’s put them together for our next cool project. Capture a beetle, millipede, or Grasshopper. Put it into a Bug House. With your child prepare two separate water dishes using tops from containers. In one mix water with sugar and the other mix water with artificial sweetener. Place both in the container with your bug and observe. Does your bug like the water with natural sugar or artificial sweetener? You can also use the same idea to test if your bug prefers Cheerios over Fruit Loops, bananas over apples, or broccoli over donuts.

Cool Parent-Child Idea #3 (really cool parent): The only thing cooler than finding a bug is finding a fossilized bug! This may be a bit difficult so let’s start off making our own. First you need to find a dead (and dry) bug. This should be fairly easy since bugs do not live long (especially in your house!). A dead ant, June Beetle, Dragonfly or House Fly would work fine. You can either “press” them carefully into clay to leave a fossilized looking imprint or…take out some wax paper and honey. Place the bug on the paper and pour a small amount of honey on top. Place in freezer and in 20 minutes you have fossilized “amber” with bug in the center. Cool.

Cool Parent-Child Idea #4: Over time collect dead and dried bugs with your child. A good place to store your bugs is in a small tackle box. After you and your child have collected six to twelve bugs it’s time to make a display box. Take the top of a shoe box and fill it just above the rim with cotton balls making sure there are no gaps or spaces in between. You may use glue to hold the cotton balls in place. Carefully arrange the dead bugs on the cotton balls. Using clear plastic wrap, tightly cover the entire display and secure with tape in the back. The pressure from the plastic wrap should keep your bugs in place. If not add more cotton balls in frame.

Moms and Dads we want to hear from you! If you and your child have Cool Parent-Child bug ideas please let us know and share your experiences. The important thing is to spend quality time with your children and encourage them to explore and enjoy the world we live in. Have a Creepy Crawly Time! 


Seth Prezant is the founder and Bugmaster of www.CoolBugStuff.com . His award winning web site was created to help promote fascination and education in science using nature’s most abundant creatures…Bugs! Seth is a true EEE (Education & Entertainment Entrepreneur) providing educational and entertaining nature shows for schools, camps, aftercare programs and home school groups all around South Florida. The Bugmaster can be reached @ seth@coolbugstuff.com

You can find many more easy parent/child projects to do together on Seth's website www.coolbugstuff.com.

 

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Home-Education on the Run:
When leisure turns stressful

by John Bizelli

Last month we covered some important planning tips as we discussed “Learning on the road”. So I thought it would be helpful this month to at least touch on the unplanned moments– those times when leisure turns into stress.

So many parents, including myself, can relate to those nasty little melt-down moments right  in the middle of what is supposed to be the best week of their year. The dream doesn’t match the reality. Sometimes while packing, we can even close our eyes and picture the smiling faces of the entire gang on the cover of Family Magazine. The caption above surely reads something like “Our Family Has the Best Time EVER”. Only to find yourself mid-week popping Tylenol every four hours while trying to decide which would better secure little Joey to the hotel room chair; rope or duct-tape? ...read more

Since you already understand the importance of planning for a stress free vacation, the first and most important force in heading off the amount of time you spend making bad memories, is to know it is coming. That’s right, a melt-down or two is bound to happen. You see, most children naturally thrive on routine. Even a regular non-routine becomes routine (or expected) in the mind of a child. To stray from a “comfort zone” is to have a heightened sense of need for security. For a young child in this scenario, stress is almost guaranteed. Even though my wife and I are in the business of travel, family travel for leisure is out of our routine. So, the first step in alleviating stress when traveling is simply to recognize this comfort zone change in the event of a melt-down; even in the middle of Disney World. Know that you are not a bad parent, and your child is not an ungrateful brat.

Now that you know a down-swing is almost guaranteed, have a “Getaway Plan” ready. A time-out in the form of something familiar (i.e. favorite food, favorite drink, a special walk, a family nap, etc) will reconnect everyone to what is routine. If you’re more into prevention than correction, please read last month’s article on the importance of planning. We home educate, so education IS a part of our routine. Thus making leisure educational will maintain a sense of security by default. Speaking of food, try to avoid caffeine and sugar all together.

Last but certainly not least; when you’re safe and sound back at home finalizing the pages of your scrapbook, frame those melt-down moments with a little humor. Lord knows most of them are worth a good laugh in hindsight. For example: during a cruise to Mexico, we were having a “fun day at sea” when the kids chose to stage a rebellion. Our three girls (don’t even say it, my wife tried to warn me of the odd number factor) decided war was the proper response to end the ever important battle over rushing to the pizza buffet before it closed or conquering the big waterslide before the crowd.

Today there is a page in our scrapbook with some superimposed photos of Mom going down the waterslide yelling, (proclaiming “I want Pizza!”) while Dad is at the bottom of the slide stuffing his face with pizza yelling at Mom (proclaiming “I want to slide!”). The kids are in the background, arms folded, eyes rolling, (proclaiming “and they spent $2500 for THIS?”).

Plan * Be prepared for some stress * Laugh at yourselves later. See you next month. To view past segments of this series visit the Home Educators Classroom


John Bizelli is a Geospatial Information Systems Analyst and a home-educating father of 3 teens. So it was only fitting that he and his wife Pamela would start a travel company with an emphasis on education. Visit www.MyGetawayPlan.com  and click on Education Travel to find out more about accredited education programs at sea such as “The Scholar-Ship”, an academic program hosting both undergraduate and postgraduate students on semester-long voyages around the world. Also if you’re a Doctor, Nurse, Lawyer, or Dentist you will want to find out about our CMEs - Continuing Education Accreditation while traveling.

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To CLEP or Not to CLEP

by Jean Burk

Should my child CLEP out of class some or all their college courses? This is the question that is on the mind of a lot of homeschooling families. It has become a popular trend over the last few years. Stay at home, save money-get college credit. Sounds like a win-win situation, but know all the facts before you jump head first into this new concept. ...read more

The College-Level Examination Program® or CLEP is a program that allows students of any age the chance to gain college credit through a series of exams in undergraduate college courses. Like AP courses, there are several advantages to doing well on CLEP tests. Ask a local school advisor or go to www.collegeboard.com  for more information on the CLEP program. CLEP program is in not necessarily a substitution for taking college courses, but it can help you prepare and enhance your college experience. 

Take fewer classes in college. You can get college credit for information you already know. If you have already studied a particular subject you can channel that knowledge into other college hours and therefore take a lighter load in college. 

Spend less money of education. CLEP exams coast roughly $65, which is minimal when compared the coast of dollars in tuition. CLEP exams are also free to those who are serving in the military. 

Skip the stuff you already know. Why waste time and money learning something you already know? CLEPing out of beginner classes can help you jump into the more advanced and interesting courses college has to offer. 

Finish your Degree. If you are missing some courses for graduation, CLEP exams are a great way of helping you get those few college hours.  

There can also be disadvantages that you need to be aware of as well. Remember that this still new territory especially when it comes to CLEPing out more than a few classes. 

• Credibility of your degree. Many families have opted to have their child do all their college work through some of the “distance learning” programs. Make sure that by earning your “degree” this way will actually be counted as legitimate. 

Longer than you think. Some programs claim that a four year degree can be obtained in six months through accelerated learning and then CLEPing out of normal college classes. Don’t just take the word of someone who has written a book; do more research to find out if anyone you know has been this successful in such a short time? 

• Scholarships nullified. Imagine spending a lot of time working on CLEP tests to then find out that you have too many college hours and are disqualified for scholarships. Many students have lost out on scholarship money because they were no longer considered an incoming freshman-but a transfer student because of their “earned college credit”. 

The decision when and how many CLEP tests should be administered is a personal choice. CLEPing certain classes can actually benefit students in several ways. Too much CLEPing could be more of a hindrance. Make sure you base your college class decisions on facts and research and what will best fit the needs of your family. A happy medium might be to enter college with a some credits, get scholarships and then CLEP out of as many classes as you want.


For more information visit www.collegeprepgenius.com or contact Jean Burk at info@collegeprepgenius.com   Also sign-up for our free No Brainer Scholarship Newsletter.

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Safe and Secure: Bicycle Safety and Equipment Fit

by Becky Douglas

This is the seventh in a series of articles about youth bicycle travel. The articles cover all aspects of developing and executing a bike trip for kids, and are based on Adventure Cycling Association's Pedal Pioneers Guide, a detailed handbook for bicycle travel with kids.

Bicycle safety training is a key component to successful overnight bicycle adventures with your home schooler. Fewer than 20 percent of automobile-bicycle accidents are caused by cars - this means cyclists have control over the remaining 80 percent, and most cycling accidents are preventable with proper training. With solid bicycle safety training, you can increase your child's mobility, fitness, and joy in life while boosting their riding skills. Knowledge of traffic laws and a properly fit bicycle and helmet are vital for the safety of your child....read more

It is most important that you model safe bicycling behaviors and pay attention to your child’s level of riding. In addition to practice rides, it is a good idea to have specific safety instruction. You may decide to bring a safety expert into the picture, or do the training yourself. Below we outline some of your options for finding more information. 

League of American Bicyclists (LAB) certifies bicycle safety instructors who teach bicycle safety classes and are available to provide information or assist with bike safety.  

Many state and local governments provide bicycle safety materials, and some maintain their own bicycle safety programs. Inquire about these through your state DOT’s bicycle and pedestrian coordinator. Visit the Cyclists’ Yellow Pages to find the coordinator in your state. 

Statewide and local organizations that run their own bike safety programs may have a curriculum that you can use or an instructor who can help you. Visit The Cyclists’ Yellow Pages or the Thunderhead Alliance for a listing of groups.  

Equipment

Equipment failure is a common cause of bicycle accidents. Below we outline an easy way to inspect for mechanical problems that could cause accidents. A bicycle safety check should be conducted on each bicycle prior to each day’s ride.  Determine if your child checks their own bike or if you do this. Either way, it is a good idea for you to do the final check daily. 

Wheels
• Check hub-bearing adjustment. The wheels should spin freely without lateral bearing play.
• Check for wheel trueness and excessive tire wear. Make sure the brake pads do not rub on the rim or contact the tire. 

Brakes
• Make sure the brakes firmly grab the wheels before the hand lever reaches the handlebar. Brake levers should only bottom out with considerable pressure.
• Make sure the brake pads contact the rim properly and do not contact the tire. 

Headset
• Apply front brake and rock bike forward and backward - there should be no movement of the head set. Be sure the handle bars turn freely. 

Handlebars and stem
• Hold front wheel with knees and twist handlebars. Check that bolts are tight. 

Racks and fenders
• Check that bolts are tight. 

Seat
• The saddle should be tight, properly aligned, and level.
• Be sure seat is tight on seatpost and the seatpost is tight in the frame. 

Cranks and pedals
• Check for side-to-side play.
• Make sure crank arms are tight on bottom bracket spindle.
• Be sure bottom bracket cups are tight in frame.
• Be sure that pedals are tightly screwed into the crank arms. 

Making sure your child has the best bike fit is very important for safe handling, comfort, and easy pedaling. Hand-me-down bikes and borrowed bikes make bicycle adjustments even more important for youth. Many safety programs outline proper riding positioning in their classes and materials.  

Fitting your child to a bicycle
1. Have your child straddle their bicycle. For a bike with a straight top tube, the tube should be about two inches below the crotch. Measure bikes with downward sloping top tubes as if the tube height were straight.
2. Make sure the saddle is sitting parallel to the ground and not significantly tilted up or down.
3. Have your child sit on the bike, placing a foot on a pedal at the bottom of the stroke (closest to the ground). Their leg should be extended with a slight bend in the knee. If the bike frame fits but the pedals are too close, raise the seatpost. If the pedals are too far or their hips swivel while trying to reach the bottom of the pedal stroke, lower the seatpost. On a properly fitted bike, your child will be on tiptoes to reach the ground when sitting on the seat.
4. Have your child lean forward on the bike. They should not be straining forward or look pushed back on the bike. The handlebars should be at a height and distance such that the youth can sit comfortably on the bike. Their hands should reach the bars at about the width of their shoulders. Their wrists should be straight and not bent.
5. If there is great discomfort, many cyclists try a few different saddle positions and even saddles to find the perfect fit.
6. For more information on fitting, read “How to Adjust Your Seatpost” by Sheldon Brown or read Peter White’s “How to Fit a Bicycle”. 

Suggested Activity: Have your child diagnose what is wrong with a bicycle. Have them check a bike step by step. 

How to Fit a Helmet
1. Get a helmet that fits without rocking side to side. Use sizing pads to adjust for best fit.
2. The helmet should sit level on the head so that the forehead is covered within two finger widths or less of the eyebrow. May experienced cyclists ride with their helmet nearly touching their sunglasses.
3. Adjust side straps so that they meet right under their ear lobes to form a “Y.”
4. The buckle should be centered under the chin, and no more than one or two fingers should fit under the buckled strap. Your child should be able to yawn wide but feel the helmet pulling down on the tops of their heads.
5. Check the helmet for rocking - it should not move more than two fingers width above your eyebrow or fall forward into their eyes. They should be able to look up and see the edge of their helmet.

After teaching your home schooler bike safety and getting them properly fit to their bike and helmet, take them out on a shakedown ride. Whether this is their first tour or their tenth, it’s good to take a test run with the your child's bike all geared up to make sure everything works well. Bikes and equipment should have a thorough safety check before departure. Loaded practice rides are especially important. 

Throughout this series of articles, we will be referring to the vast cycling resources that already exist in North America. The articles should be supplemented with other resources that address bicycle safety, camping skills, and group dynamics if you are traveling with several kids. Happy bicycle travels! 


Becky Douglas is the Outreach and Education Coordinator at Adventure Cycling Association. Thanks to Kerry Irons for his help in writing this article. The mission of Adventure Cycling Association is to inspire people of all ages to travel by bicycle. They help cyclists explore the landscapes and history of America for fun, fitness, and self-discovery. Becky is the administrator of the Pedal Pioneers Program, which aims to inspire and empower adults who are taking kids on overnight bicycle adventures. She is also the author of Pedal Pioneers: A Guide to Bicycle Travel with Kids and can be reached at outreach@adventurecycling.org

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What Do You Do When Your Child is the One
Yelling in the Mall?
How Your Child Can Develop Self-Discipline Over Anger and Disappointment

by Diane Spoehr 

Last week I witnessed a scene that is all too commonly played out at the grocery checkout counter.  There was that cute little kid in the seat of the grocery cart whining at her Mother about a candy bar, “But I want it! I want it!”

Her Mom said ‘No’, and the child started hitting her mother, still whining and complaining.

No, the mom did not actually give in and buy the candy, but neither did she make any real attempt to stop her daughter’s behavior, so everyone within 50 feet got to listen to this girl whining and complaining and punching at her mother.  Some of us wanted to complain to the Mother ourselves! The child did not find any reason to stop. As far as she knows, these behaviors are perfectly acceptable, at least in the grocery store checkout. ...read more

In real life direct disobedience and angry behavior have consequences. They can be the cause of losing a job, losing respect of others, and getting one thrown out of stores, clubs, and restaurants, besides causing general disgust.

Adults like Grocery Mother need to get a grip on who is in charge, and it should not be the child. The child in the store was hitting her mother out of pure temper, and she has apparently never been given a different way to handle her anger or her disappointment.  

Most parents will consider the cause of a child’s anger before disciplining a child.  When anger comes from not being allowed to have a treat, the parent is not doing the child any favor by giving the treat to appease the tantrum. If a child receives the candy because he was yelling and hitting his Mom, then he will continue to yell and hit for candy; his Mom has taught him that is how to get what he wants. Counting to three, then counting again, then not following up with any consequence will teach children not to listen when you count to three! Consistent limits of behavior and consistent consequences will teach kids to believe what you say.

Discipline is not punishment. It is the way to teach self-discipline. Parents must both reward and punish, which together become discipline, and build children’s trust in the justice of their parents. Discipline is always done with love; literally there must be hugs after any punishment, once the dust has settled and everyone is calm again. Children are not mind readers; they don’t actually know for a fact you love them after you made them sit in the corner. You need to tell them and show them.  

If children expect to receive punishment for misbehavior, and then do receive it, their view of the world as a place of justice will be reinforced. When a parent is consistent in discipline, kids will know enough to behave in public or face the consequences they don’t like once they get back home.

If a child is having a temper tantrum or a ‘meltdown’ and is out of control to the point that the thought of consequences to come has no effect, then perhaps you just have to go home. But what if you’re too far away to get back, or have errands that must be completed?  If you are out visiting, there may be a safe, quiet room at your friends’ house, or you could take your child for a walk around the block until he or she calms down. When you are shopping or in church you can go out and walk around until the child regains their composure. Often anger is best controlled by having safe time alone, or by working. Physical exercise is a great outlet for emotions. If one is angry it is usually helpful to go for a fast walk or bike ride, play hoops or run. Children do well to work off their anger in exercise, rather than just sitting and fuming. But they have to be kept safe, as an angry child may not watch out for the cars when he tears out of the drive on his bike.

Some adults apparently believe that obnoxious behavior in children is to be expected, and that their children’s bad behavior should be excused by the general public. Those folks are so wrong!  Most children are taught good manners and most kids are polite and considerate. They don’t care to watch a yelling, screaming child any more than do adults! 

When we teach children that they will receive appropriate consequences for good behavior and for bad, then we teach them to think about the results of their actions. As they mature and have more sense of their own identity they also begin to realize they can control what happens in their lives a bit more. This is the beginning of self-discipline. If they know that hitting their sister in the mall parking lot will result in no candy from the store, they are going to learn to think about hitting before they do it. If your kid is one who decides hitting is more fun, up the ante; make the consequence bigger.

Normally well-behaved kids who lose their tempers may be quite embarrassed afterward and not want anyone to see them. They know they just made fools of themselves; kids are as perceptive as anyone else. Explain that they must think of this the next time they become angry, and consider why they should not act out in public. This is how we all learn to behave, by realizing what our behavior looks like, and how it makes us feel.  

As most parents know, seeing our children disappointed is harder to bear than their anger because there are disappointments in life a parent can’t fix; sad times from missing out on a party due to sickness, or not having the money for a longed-for doll, not being invited with the rest of the kids, or being ignored.  These things happen to us all, but knowing that does not make it any easier to accept the heartache! This is not a temper or anger management issue, even if temper flashes from a child at these times.

“It’s not fair! I wanted to go so bad!! I waited for months!”

 “No, it’s not fair. I know you really wanted it. I know that you are really disappointed.

It makes me sad to see you sad.”

These are the most difficult times for parents, watching helplessly as Life punches at our children. They will have to learn to accept and go on, just as we did, so they must have time to deal with the hurt. Keep an eye on them, but let them think it over. We cannot shield our children from all disappointment, but they do need to know there are other things coming to brighten the future. When the tears have ended and they are happy again, remind them how sad they felt before and point out how happy they are now. Teach them to have faith in life, that when there is bad that seems unending, time will pass and joy will come again. If they can see happy times ahead they can learn to be hopeful.

Hope is the greatest gift we can give, after love. We all need hope in life, all through life. Realize that your kids need to see this in action, though. If you are disappointed you are going to need to work through it and smile, so your kids can see that what you tell them is really true.  We must give them hope; we must be our own.  


Diane Spoehr is a 3rd Dan Degree Black Sash in the ancient Korean Martial and Healing Art of Hwa Rang Do®, with 10 years of experience teaching children and adults of all ages. She has taught many children and their parents how to develop self-discipline, demonstrate courtesy, and achieve their goals. Diane Spoehr is the Head Instructor and Owner of the Hwa Rang Do School of Jacksonville, located in Mandarin and Julington Creek.

Website: www.hwarangdofl.com
Email:   hrdjax@bellsouth.net

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Driving While Intexticated

by Maria Wojtczak

Texting and driving has become an increasing problem with teen drivers, and has been a hot
topic in the news lately. With the recent deaths involving teen drivers around the nation and
here locally, DrivingMBA is doing its part to inform parents and teens of the dangers of
driving "intexticated".
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Research shows that texting while driving decreases a driver's reaction time to that of an 80-year old and takes a driver's eyes off the road by 40%. AAA and Seventeen Magazine conducted a survey and found that out of 1,000 teens, an astounding 50% admitted to texting/reading while driving and 51% confessed to talking on cell phones. So, what does this mean? It means that in the three seconds it takes a teen, or any driver, to write/read a text, a teen's life or someone else's can be in great danger.

Make sure your teen arrives alive at his/her destination and enforce a no texting/no cell phone usage while driving rule.

If your teen needs additional convincing that texting/cell phone use while driving is a deadly combination, consider enrolling them in our Level 2 Advanced Defensive Driving Course. We have a cell phone/texting lesson in our curriculum. We have a student drive and text and in every case thus far, the student has crashed when something out of the ordinary happens.   We have the ability to put a teenager in a dangerous situation and have them "experience" the consequences in a virtual environment. It is an eye-opener for them to see how easily they can lose control of a situation and be involved in a crash that could have severe consequences.



Maria Wojtczak is the owner of DrivingMBA and is responsible for marketing and the operation of the organization.  DrivingMBA is a unique driver tutoring program geared towards better preparing teenagers for the responsibility of driving.  To learn more about DrivingMBA visit the web-site www.drivingmba.com.    Before Maria and her husband Richard, opened Driving MBA Maria worked as a consultant for over 20 years in the field of organization development working with a wide range of organizations.  In addition to the use of traditional organization development techniques, she is highly skilled in large systems change and organization learning, with formal training in both specialties. She has extensive experience in the field of adult learning concepts, and in the design and facilitation of adult learning experiences. 

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